Tea With Hailey
Digital meeting place to talk to Hailey as we process the void. Pictures, videos, feelings, stories, journaling, sharing. It's all welcome. I'll start a new post each week that can be replied to. My goal is to sit down each week with a cup of tea and some dedicated time for Hailey.
Sunday, August 13, 2023
Drowned
Sunday, December 18, 2022
First Sunday Tea with Hailey
Hey kiddo.
It's been over 2 weeks since you left us. I said that I was going to start today sitting down with a cup of tea and sharing with you. About you. For you. For me.
Starting is important. It's an achievement just to get something up. Eventually, I'll get the blog space formatted and it will be pretty. Today, it's just up. A place for me to write. To process. Share pics and videos. Everyone who is grieving you is welcome to have a cup of tea and share in the comments their week in grief. Stories. Happy or sad. All the feelings. They are there for all of us. This is a space for us.
But I don't want to. Sitting here with this stupid cup of tea not wanting to deal with the grief.
It's been overwhelming. all consuming. Everything hurts. My body feels like it's been beaten and every piece of it is bruised.
shock. disbelief. every morning I wake up in tears with the immediate thought of this has to be a mistake. I've driven very little. My brain just doesn't work right now. I made a list of daily things to do. I actually have to look at it to see if i've brushed my teeth that day. watered the dog. left the house.
I took Rae out to coffee for their bday. It was a good conversation. I'm worried about them. So much grief and trauma over the years. Now you're gone. Just a big hole.
The crematorium brought me your jewelry and your locks of hair. I wasn't prepared for that. The director was so adorable though. She looks like a grown up Wednesday with the voice of Sadness from Inside Out. She's adorable and I want to be her friend. (I thought you would get a kick out of that). She does her job very well and it feels like I made the right choice in that area. So few places to grab some comfort in all of this, but that was a sliver.
Chris came over on your bday and we made a spirit plate from dinner and set it out under the big tree. Then watched Inside Out together. At the end where Joy fell into the big hole of forgotten thoughts and broke down and cried. I felt her. I go through most of life with a sense of joy and gratitude. But even Joy breaks down. I am not ok. I know that I will be ok again someday. But it's going to be a long time. I am not ok today. not tomorrow. not the day after tomorrow. I don't even have hope in someday. but I know that there will be a someday.
I love you. I miss you. I'm in awe of you. I'm proud of you.
I wish you were here.
Grief sucks. Baby steps.
Saturday, December 17, 2022
Drowned
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Hey kiddo. It's been over 2 weeks since you left us. I said that I was going to start today sitting down with a cup of tea and sharing...
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I often get trapped in a song when I'm processing heavy emotion. I'll listen to it over and over and over for days, weeks, months. ...
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